The Courage to Face Any Thought

Oftentimes, thoughts can go all over the place. They can go so many places you may have no idea how the images in your head even got there. Images of pain and violence, or those of your worst fears. And every time your thoughts get going, you begin to dread having to see those things again in your mind. You’re not the kind of person who thinks those things! Can’t they just leave you alone…?

Do you know what I’m talking about? Maybe it happens for you after a scary movie, when your mind wanders back to the things that haunted you. Or maybe the phrase: “What has been seen, cannot be unseen” calls what I’m talking about to mind.

All in all, it’s when you don’t want to think a certain thought.

The thing is, if you are afraid of your own thoughts, then it causes even more disturbance in your mind. You might actively try to think other thoughts on top of the ones that you don’t want to think, and you have to constantly expend energy doing this, because if you don’t….

But no matter how much you try, your thoughts won’t calm down. Because you’re constantly adding more thoughts, replacing what you’re afraid of with turmoil. Yeah, you might avoid it for a while, but…

Creepy Image Haunts You

Oh crap not again.

Flowing Towards Peace

So if thinking about something else doesn’t help, what does?

Well you know how when you’re thinking the thoughts you like, thoughts flow from one to the next? Same with the thoughts you don’t like, IF you leave them alone.

That is, as intimidating as it may sound, you must allow yourself to think the thoughts that appear in your head. Allow them to be there for as long as they would be if you weren’t afraid of them. Just stand strong and take it.

You might be afraid that this means you’ll think them over and over again forever, or that your actions will be determined by your thoughts, but no. If your action is to stand strong no matter what thought rolls into your mind, those thoughts will keep moving. Not all thought is a precursor to action. Are you thinking these things because you’re trying to figure out what to do? No? Then think them. Don’t run from them, don’t try to rush them forward. Just think them. Eventually the chaos will pass.

(Or, do you think that you ARE going to act on the thoughts? Really? Do you seriously think you’ll choose to do such freaky things? Own your own power of choice. Be realistic. You are not at the mercy of a random flow of fear-inducing thoughts.)

You might be thinking now, “Eh, it sounds a whole lot easier just to constantly avoid thinking about  thoughts I fear, than to rush headlong into them.” But one thing to keep in mind that if any side of you holds courage as an ideal, they may test you by flooding your mind with these thoughts, no matter how much you dislike them. They may back off if you fail the test, but you can bet they’ll try again later.

No, if you want to have peace in your mind, you need to allow yourself to think through all the thoughts that appear there. Maybe then you’ll be able to see where the thoughts are coming from, and if something in you is trying to scare you. The key is to not back down, even if the thoughts make you uncomfortable. Do not hide behind other thoughts. Face the thoughts you fear, and find what’s on the other side of them. No thought, at least to me, is worth surrendering your peace for.

Let the hundred chattering voices and movie screens be. Sometimes they want to see you get scared. Just stand, unaffected, aware that your peace is being threatened.

So, say you’re in a mess of thoughts – how do you know what the right direction is? Here’s an easy test: You’re going the right way if you feel more and more peace, NOT if you think less and less of certain thoughts.

I hope that helps whenever you next find yourself being attacked by your own thoughts, or even have a song stuck in your head. And remember, it’s just a thought! It’s not an order, or a precognition, or even reality. It’s just an image, or words, like you might read on the internet. The reality at such times is your fear, or whatever else you’re feeling. Stay strong. Don’t let the things in your head get to you. You’ll make it through, a-ok.

That all said, here’s one more clip from Courage the Cowardly Dog:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T1CJxHlE6tw

The things you do for love.

IMPORTANT UPDATE (Can’t “Not think” anything):

I saw that there have been a lot of people reading this post lately, so I wanted to share my added findings, even though there aren’t any blog posts about it yet.

Basically, I’ve found that it’s not enough to JUST endure your thoughts, because then your head is just filled with a bunch of stuff you don’t understand, and sometimes it DOESN’T go away. To work through this stage, you need to understand how thoughts work.

Basically, any images you see in your mind’s eye are a kind of statement from some side of yourself. Not every thought is expressed in words.

Furthermore, the reason why you can’t get away from your thoughts is because if you think “Not X”, you might see X  in your mind’s eye, but maybe scribbled out, or maybe constantly returning to your mind. You see it because “Not X” still includes X. Maybe you’re not thinking it EXPLICITLY, however, so you might see X reappearing over and over again and you don’t know why. But that image is a clue to lead you to what your mind is REALLY trying to say – for instance, “Not X”.

I think about it like this now: all images, words, sounds, or whatever in your head are like a part of yourself trying to say something. It’s up to you to respond with your own thoughts and images, as if having a conversation in your mind, with whatever in you is speaking up, whether that side of you is speaking in fear or anger or whatever else. Work with yourself.

But the thing about calming your mind by not reacting impulsively to your thoughts still holds. It is way more productive to ask why an image in your mind is there than to try and do something about it immediately. As with most problems, you can see the symptom – but it’s when you get to the root of that symptom’s appearance that you can truly address the root cause, and thus, solve the problem.

Remember: thoughts can appear for many reasons – try to understand why they appear, and you can do something about it. You don’t have to be afraid of thoughts, and you have the capacity to address thoughts, whatever images or words they might contain.

SECOND UPDATE (Changing Focus):

The latest bit of information I have is about focus. In the last update, I mentioned how you will think about X even if you think ‘Not X’ – well, focus is how you can fundamentally change what you are thinking about on that underlying level. So what’s a way to change focus? Instead of trying to mess with your mental image, arbitrarily put your focus on something else. Like, look around and search for the color red in everything you see. Then a different color. Occupy your mind with different topics and point of focus until your flow of thoughts doesn’t keep diving into the disturbing images.

At the same time, remember that shifting focus does not address the reason for these thoughts appearing. The purpose of shifting focus is to give you breather room to some mental stability. To really solve the cause of the thoughts, you will need to use your awareness to figure out why these images are occurring. If it’s fear, you may want to deal with the fear head-on by examining why you’re afraid of what you are in-depth. Uncovering the truth about a fear and why it’s an issue for you usually helps immensely in relieving it.

Third Update (Article on Fear):

I now have an article on how to deal with fear in general. This can help with any fear, by essentially getting you to stick to the facts of what you actually know, rather than hypothesizing wildly. You can find that article here.

Forth Update (Bad Thoughts from Checking if They’re Gone):

One important phenomenon that I noticed, that may be one of the last keys to this issue, was that when I try to prove to myself that I’m safe from my thoughts, I impulsively create the thoughts that I don’t like. Why do I do this? Because I want to confirm with my mind that the issue is over and done with, and I want to be realistic about this. But the fact is that the mind can create anything at any time, so I can always disprove the idea that the issue is finished, without fail, every time.

This means that when you hope to be safe from your thoughts, then that hope can be dashed almost immediately, but it can happen in response to your hopes.

This is very important, because while at first it may seem like your bad thoughts are inescapable, what it really tells you is that you are the one in control of your thoughts being created, and they’re coming from a benign place (at least in this case), that is, from your hope.

From here, I found two ways of responding positively to thoughts as the possibility of thinking them arose in my mind – you know, the feeling of being on edge that your mind will go in “that direction” once again. Here are the two ways I found – both were effective:

  1. “I can’t not think this thought”. Thinking this stops you in your tracks in attempting to not think a thought, which will inevitably bring to you more of the thought you don’t want to think.
  2. “I could think a bad/unwanted thought right now.” Thinking this recognizes your own ability to create thoughts you don’t like, and stops you from trying to prove yourself “safe” from certain thoughts that you think about possibly having.

Both methods are meant to make it very evident to your mind that you have the power to go down the road of thinking the thoughts you don’t want to think, or are afraid to think. It also makes it clear that trying to avoid thinking those thoughts can make the situation even worse. By being clear with yourself that it’s impossible to deliberately not think a thought, and that you could consciously create unwanted thoughts right now, you can stop your mind’s attempts to either try avoiding unwanted thoughts (and thus creating them) or to think that thoughts are not a choice (which can flood your mind with unwanted thoughts, simply because you think it’s out of your control).

Those are the things I wanted to share – this may be the last post on this, because I really feel like this was sort of the last threshold in terms of handling unwanted thoughts, though I may find later that there are ways for more to get in. As always, I will post my findings here if and when I find them. Take care, and anyone suffering from fear of their own thoughts out there, I hope this helps.

Fifth Update (Using Willpower to prove to yourself You’re Safe):

What I wanted to talk about here was an additional way to “keep calm and carry on”, so to speak, despite your thoughts. As it suggests in the title, you can use your willpower, or your ability to deliberately choose and act on those choices, to keep yourself safe from bad thoughts.

Basically, here is what I found to be the key: Ask yourself, “What would I normally do if I did not have these thoughts right now?” Then, act on that. Just do whatever it is you’d normally do if you did not have your unwanted thoughts. This sort of thing is very simple, as you may find like I did that you are able to operate despite your thoughts, even when they’re going all over the place, including places you don’t want them to go. You don’t need to let your awareness of them impede your actions. However, you CAN just act as you would normally.

What this does is give you a safe haven in which to lead a normal life, even in those moments when your thoughts are anything but normal. And if you have that, you can examine the issues in your thoughts without being afraid that they will affect your actions. Because you can always just keep going about your daily routine – doing the things you like to do, taking care of the things you choose to take care of, even if your thoughts are all over the map. Just note it and keep moving forward. Your thoughts do NOT have to affect you. You can CHOOSE to just stick to a normal routine. Yes, maybe this is just a stepping stone before you solve the deeper issues behind these thoughts, but having a safe haven can make a huge difference.

That’s all for now, I’ll most likely post again if there are any more updates on this issue. Good luck out there, and take care.

Sixth Update (Utilizing the power of Mental Input):

The mind seems to not respond to reason, but does respond to input. This means that one way you can influence, but not control, your thoughts, is to deliberately think things to distract and lead your mind away from what it may be obsessing over fearfully.

For instance, if you’re thinking about some traumatic experience, and you suddenly think “rubber jellyfish” – it seems as though the mind takes a moment to process the new input, and may provide associated information – such as what a rubber jellyfish would look like, feel like, taste like, why you might think of a rubber jellyfish, and if there is any deep significance to it. This of course may seem all the more ridiculous to you as you watch your thoughts, and this may enable you to get out of a mental danger zone.

If you’re thinking fear-inducing things RIGHT NOW, one thing you can do is to take a moment and deliberately think one completely ridiculous thing after another, until you feel more safe.

Further Reading

How to Reduce Fear, Escape Anxiety, and End Panic is a great ebook and set of meditations by Mark Ivar Myhre for approaching Fear, whether it be fear of thoughts or any other kind. Nevermind the resources on anxiety and panic.

An article by the same guy, How To Stop Obsessive Thoughts, deals with another important aspect of this topic: getting back to your true feelings.

Fear Of Thinking - Fearofstuff.com entry on the fear of thinking, otherwise called Phrnemophobia.

What has been Seen Cannot Be Unseen – Some information from Knowyourmeme.com about the meme.

"What has been seen cannot be unseen" meme

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