About Oliver Kaufman

Oliver Kaufman just is who he is. Like anybody, he's got a lot of stuff going on inside of him, and, having found a way to share it, created this website to share what he has found that brings value to his own life. He also likes to talk in third person and sound genial and relatable. He has a thing about not being defined by the groups he's been a part of, the schools he's attended, or the kind of people he hangs out with. That's not important to him. What he really likes is finding out stuff in life that is helpful to other people and himself, things that make life better, more enriched, more empowered - and without cheap tactics like fooling yourself into thinking life is better, or more enriched, or that one is empowered when they really aren't. He's not into that. He knows that some people put high standards on themselves and others, they hold up certain people as heroes and ideal people to be like. He doesn't like this. He thinks that everyone has stuff going on inside them, and that paying attention to how things are right now for each individual is what's important. Maybe he's wrong, but talking about all this in his biographical information sure makes him feel good. Also doubtful. He wonders if talking this way, when you the reader probably expected a long-winded list of past events, is off-putting to you. But, in the end, he has decided to just stick with what he likes, and that means sticking with exactly what he wrote. With that, he bids you farewell and hopes you enjoy this site. Thank you!

Learning Spirituality From Your Own Inner World

I recently had an article published on Sivana East, a spirituality blog. The article is an examination of the topic of spirituality, and how one can develop a personal spirituality through nurturing a relationship with one’s inner world.

So go check it out! It’s at https://blog.sivanaspirit.com/sp-gn-learning-spirituality-from-your-inner-world/

Take care –
-Oliver

Introducing Coaching for The World Within

I’m pleased to announce that I am now offering personal coaching for those of you wanting to dive deeper into your own inner worlds. With coaching, you’ll be able to work with me 1-on-1, and get first-hand practice and guidance with the techniques, methods, and knowledge that can empower you in how you handle your inner life.

More info here: https://www.theworldwithin.org/coaching/

All of us can have issues that plague us, and questions that linger at the backs of our minds. By employing techniques of self-awareness and expression, you can gain the edge you need to understand and transform on the deepest levels of yourself, as you grapple with questions of purpose, identity, wants vs needs, longing, direction in life, and more.

Things like inner peace, playfulness, bliss, and wonder do not have to linger on in absence from life, nor do they have to be gained through repression. There are real answers within yourself, and it’s my hope that with coaching, just like with this website, I can help you find them. And more than just answers, I hope I can help you find new places, new horizons in your life – places of possibility and abundance that you never thought you could go.

I have 8 years of practice working with my own inner world and through all manner of issues that have come up in my emotional life in that time. And I’m excited to share all I’ve learned in a more direct way with whoever is interested.

If you have any questions, please feel free to send them to me via the contact form on the coaching page linked above.

All the best,
-Oliver

Letting Go and Sincere Living

Letting go is an art form. It requires releasing your attachments, and thus, what you want. You have to open yourself up, be vulnerable, patient, and quiet inside. With letting go, you can’t have what you want, but you can have much, much more.

The Toxic Nature of Wanting

When we obsess over goals and wants, we can become blind to the internal conditions we’re in and that we’re trying to avoid them. By letting go, we let in the moment and all the feelings that are a part of it.

When you want something, it isn’t present, and this identified lack becomes a focus and a driving motivation for all action to obtain said desire. Even if you are an ethical person, you still look for a way to meet all your standards for ethics while still obtaining your desire.

Yet, all the while, as you travel to your destination, there is a sense of lack, a sense of things not being right. Maybe when you hit progress goals, then you get a little boost of happiness, but it can easily subside into more dissatisfaction. You want things to be better. There’s still more lack.

So why is this toxic? Because it avoids the present. If you notice how you are in the present, you can see the manic states, the lack of peace, the impatience, the annoyance, the pride, and even the spitefulness towards perceived obstacles in your way. You become embittered and embattled, stressed and straining. You end up hanging your hopes on progress towards a non-present goal, and all this takes up your time as again and again you pursue it. You can even end up basing your worth on how close you are to a goal. This is a toxic place to live in, and no matter how much you pace yourself, at the very least, attachment to a goal leads you out of the present moment, and things are going to fall through the cracks.

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Insecurity Ailments Page

Hi all! First update in a while, but wanted to let you know about the new article I just posted. It’s about insecurity as an inner ailment, and can be found here: https://www.theworldwithin.org/ailments/insecurity/

This is something that I have dealt with a lot in my own life, and am still learning more about. However, I’ve found enough to where I was able to put together something useful, that specifically goes into how owning your vulnerability can make a huge difference as far as bringing you out of an insecure state, and into one that’s more calm, self-assured, and open.

Take care,
-Oliver

How to Handle Anxiety as an Entrepreneur (external article)

Hi all! Recently I had the opportunity to write a guest blog article on Jordan Ring’s website, where he has various articles all designed to inspire you to live your best life possible.

Click here for the article: http://www.jmring.com/how-to-handle-anxiety-as-an-entrepreneur-under-pressure/

My article focuses specifically on anxiety that may be experienced by someone forging ahead on an entrepreneurial lifestyle. A life where it’s easy to get caught up in success at all costs, and where balance, patience, self-care, and openness can all too easily take the back seat. So my article is about exploring the value in reducing your own anxiety as an entrepreneur (or as any driven individual), and sharing methods to help you do just that.

Enjoy!

You can read more about anxiety on my website here: https://www.theworldwithin.org/ailments/anxiety/

And you can learn more about Jordan and the work he does here: http://www.jmring.com/about-me/

Barriers to Feeling

Opening our hearts to our feelings can bring contentment, fulfillment, peace, and flow

Let’s face it, as much as we might be able to admit the benefits that connecting with or facing one’s feelings brings, there are some serious barriers that can block us from those feelings.

For one, feelings are inconvenient. They tell us things that deviate from any plans we might set, any beliefs we might have, and may require time from us that we’re not ready to spend. They may completely call us to change our lives. And this change is for the better, mind you! But it’s still change.

Fear can also be a factor, and guilt, and various other things. Below I’ve compiled a list of major blockages to feelings that can stop one from really working and connecting with feelings. Continue reading

Dependence and Independence

Today, I’d like to talk about dependence and independence, what each of them is on the emotional level, and how one can become more independent.

Many times, when we talk about independence, it’s in reference to an interest in being able to do what weĀ want to do. For instance, “financial independence” refers to being able to live without working. But for some, this still can mean dependence on financial independence, always living with the tension that one’s current stability might fall through, and fearing it, or otherwise letting that fear drive incessant action to control one’s financial stability, without having peace.

Indeed, the freedom to be where one desires isn’t necessarily freedom at all, since one can still feel dependent upon that desired circumstanceĀ remaining. And when one’s desireĀ isn’t there, it can feel as though things aren’t right until itĀ is. What people are talking about here is independence as freedom from circumstance. Yet, it’s still very much dependent upon the circumstance one wishes to escape to, and remain in.

So what is dependence? I posit the following definition:

A state of being that involves “looking to get to” a circumstance, such that one craves it, feels one needs it, feels things are wrong without it, or may fear its absence. It can involve impatience, fixation, imbalance, suffering, emotional pain, fear, panic, and anxiety. It can lead to escapism, negativity, and frustration.

And what aboutĀ independence?

A state of being that involves openness to all circumstances, whatever the current circumstance happens to be. Involves flow, and a sense of detachment from circumstance and everything outside of one’s control, including direct control. Generally a positive, free, authentic, open state, devoid of shame and very fluid, not holding on to the things that come and go in reality.

Thus you can see the differences between the two. Yet, all too often, we can slip into feelings of dependence, however ideal independence might sound. Continue reading